Estrangement
- A calculated and deliberate disengagement from relationships, particularly familial ones, results in both emotional and physical separation, frequently serving as a mindful strategy for self-preservation. - Decisions to become estranged are not made lightly, as they often stem from issues such as abuse, neglect, toxic patterns, differing values, divorces, or the involvement of a third party, such as a stepparent. - The process may unfold through a gradual separation or an abrupt cessation, frequently resulting after unsuccessful efforts to establish boundaries unsuccessfully. - Estrangement can lead to significant grief, isolation, shame, and guilt, however, it may also provide relief and improve mental well-being for the individual who initiates it. - Estrangement is increasingly prevalent and is being openly addressed.
Therapy approach
- Clarifying your reasons and your values for contemplating estrangement.
- Working with feelings of grief, anger, guilt, and the fear of backlash.
- Strengthening boundaries and communication such as low contact, no contact, or structured contact.
- Planning for predictable triggers such as holidays, anniversaries, family events, money requests.
Session formats
- Trauma‑informed counselling appointments in person or via telehealth.
FAQs
Is estrangement necessarily a permanent situation?
No not necessarily. Some people choose it temporarily, others choose it long-term. Therapy supports clarity and a plan aligned with your safety and values.
What is the best way to manage feelings of guilt?
Guilt can be a learned alarm system. We work on the emotional pattern and build boundaries so guilt doesn’t force unsafe choices.